If you want to open your heart, start with your body.
The way I teach it, intimacy wouldn’t be complete without movement. In order to access the wisdom of our hearts and and the power of our sexuality, we need to first get into the body. Contact Improvisation (CI) is one of the most powerful doorways I know to do that.
Contact Improvisation is a non-sexual modern dance practice in which two (or more) people share a moving point of connection, which often leads to sharing a common center of gravity, moving in and out of the ground, up and around in air, feeling limitless in space and time, with unlimited possibilities for FUN!!!
The thing with CI is, just like intimacy, you have to show up for it. In this case, “it” is the experience of leaning into your partner’s body or having your partner lean into you. In CI we call this “giving weight”. It’s a literal expression. As we move, we literally allocate a portion of the weight of our body into the body of our dance partner(s). Like a back leaning into another back. Or a shoulder leaning into a side body. Or even a whole torso leaning over a hip. It means that we become less entirely responsible for our own weight and receive the possibility of allowing someone else’s weight to become our base, temporarily.
It’s an act of trust, balance and playfulness. It’s also an act of surrender. Sounds a little bit like intimacy off the dance floor, right?
Giving weight is also an act of sharing. Because in turn we receive the opportunity to take some of the weight of our partner into our own movement body. We take turns in a dynamic interplay in fact, receiving and giving, giving and receiving.
One thing I have noticed is that if we can practice letting go and sharing weight on the dance floor, not knowing where it is going to go but staying with the connection with curiosity and non-attachment, then intimacy off the dance floor looks a little more hopeful.
And, it’s all a practice.
In 2014 I started a weekly Contact Improvisation Class at Karmany Yoga. So that I could train a group of other bodies to practice this work with me (hint: one cannot do CI by oneself!) We now have a staff of three teachers and a community that is going strong.
Join us for a drop-in night to expand your senses, to get out of your head and to get into your playful animal body.
Every Friday at Karmany Yoga Dallas from 6-8pm. No experience or partner needed. $15 drop-in donation. Come learn a simple dance in a safe place dedicated to exploration and connection.
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Before we met all I felt was anger and confusion. Like someone half deaf reaching for a sound. Every once in a while there was a flood of emotion then it would pass, and I would be dead again for a year. When I started doing contact (which I only did because you were teaching it) I started feeling with my body and expressing with my body. It allowed me to share myself in a way that I never had.
Dance of Intimacy
Since 2014, I have been merging Contact Improvisation and principles of intimacy in events across Texas and on the west coast. Students in my Dance of Intimacy workshops learn how to use Contact Improvisation as a mirror for their patterns in intimacy, as well as a tool for having greater satisfaction in their personal dance of connection.
I also offer private Dance of Intimacy sessions. See my Couples Intensive link (under Services) for details.
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