WHY YOU HAVE TO ASK
@jessica_tartaro2023-10-03T21:51:07-07:00“I’m surprised I’ve gazed at you so long without kissing you,” he told me recently. “Maybe it’s because you haven’t asked to kiss me”, I replied.
“I’m surprised I’ve gazed at you so long without kissing you,” he told me recently. “Maybe it’s because you haven’t asked to kiss me”, I replied.
I will admit it. I was pissed. I know my youngest brother is a busy father of three. Yet for weeks he had delayed sending me an important package after swearing multiple times he would put it in the mail.
I trust you to the degree that you have welcomed your own wild out and befriended them... Only then will we be safe to love one another.
Ask anyone in the healing arts — a therapist of any stripe — what our biggest challenge is, and if they are being honest, they will tell you it’s getting in the other seat.
Pain without connection becomes like a death urge. An overwhelm for the heart and nervous system. A need to escape life and numb feeling. A panicked lockdown that knows, we were not designed to live like this.
I want words that aren’t the “doing” kind. Not the phrases that disorient you with some shiny distant maybe thing when underneath and right here and right now I’m dull and tarnished and wanting you to see. “It will work out”, “I’m really very lucky”, and “l’ll keep you posted”, I said How automatically I placated and hid, how easily you got distracted and how lonely I felt when you took my bait and smiled.
As an Intimacy Coach who focuses on helping my clients integrate trauma, I wanted to share my thoughts on why it is vital that a government that cares about the health of its people always empower women to have control over our reproduction.
A former client wrote me early this morning, reflecting on last weekend’s horrifying shooting at the synagogue outside of Pittsburgh, and said, “There is so much shared grief and disbelief — my personal experience seems unimportant. This is a time for community and for me to be calm and listen”.