THESE WORDS MY LIFELINE

June 12th, 2019|0 Comments

I want words that aren’t the “doing” kind. Not the phrases that disorient you with some shiny distant maybe thing when underneath and right here and right now I’m dull and tarnished and wanting you to see. “It will work out”, “I’m really very lucky”, and “l’ll keep you posted”, I said How automatically I placated and hid, how easily you got distracted and how lonely I felt when you took my bait and smiled.

GIVING THE GIFT OF TRUTH FOR THE HOLIDAYS

December 24th, 2018|0 Comments

I’m going to give you some advice. I know you didn’t ask for it.If you are hurting, tell someone.You’re the one sitting at the holiday gathering putting on the smile that fools them all, laughing at the right moments and being witty to keep them sure, “This one’s got it together.”

LEADERSHIP FROM THE INSIDE OUT: A NEW MODEL FOR THE HEALING ARTS

December 4th, 2018|0 Comments

It’s Wednesday again. Which means the nervousness will start right after lunch. As the afternoon wears on I will grow distracted, answering texts a little too fast and checking Facebook compulsively. My gut will begin to churn shortly after 4pm. By 6pm I will have tried on and changed my outfit at least three times. Despite my weekly resolution, I will still leave my house 10 minutes late, my feet cement, loath to exit my warm loft for the cold walk to my car.

HOW NOT TO BECOME THE THING THAT HURT ME

October 26th, 2018|0 Comments

I love my anger. I have been likened to a lioness several times in the last few weeks and I feel pride at the comparison. Pun intended.It’s taken me years to access this power. For most of my early adulthood, my lioness lay muzzled. With her on my side now, awake and roaring, I feel strong.

I BECOME REAL WHEN YOU BELIEVE ME: WHY BELIEVING SURVIVORS MATTERS

October 3rd, 2018|0 Comments

The hashtag for much of the activism around the nomination of Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court is, #BelieveSurvivors. I have been reflecting deeply on what that means. In light of the response by many to discredit people -not just women but all genders – who come forward with stories of sexual assault, I wanted to share my perspective on why believing survivors is a radical act of service, support and healing.

SURRENDER IN THE LEAST LIKELY PLACE

April 16th, 2018|0 Comments

In the past few days, I had the opportunity to experience my body in the throes of food poisoning (Note: do NOT read on if you cannot stomach stomach stories). The nausea hit towards the end of an evening client session which posed a tricky predicament, though luckily I was able to maintain my composure and close the session before racing to the bathroom.

HOW MY PUSSY PREPARED ME TO MARCH

January 20th, 2017|0 Comments

It wasn’t that I hadn’t seen pussy before. To the contrary, having dated women throughout graduate school, I was definitely more familiar than most with being close to another woman’s body. So it couldn’t have been just the mere fact of pussy that made that spring morning in Austin in 2012 so impactful.

WE GATHER IN A CIRCLE: A MEDITATION ON LEADERSHIP

May 31st, 2016|0 Comments

Ever since grade school I have gravitated to leadership. Yep, I was that kid. The one who always got A’s, was quietly liked by most and ran for and got elected to Student Council President and Class President in the same year. I was 12. I still hadn’t menstruated. I wore big, horn-rimmed glasses and my hair was usually frizzy.

A SIMPLE GATEWAY TO GET THEM TO REALLY HEAR YOU

April 5th, 2016|0 Comments

It usually starts the same way. One of us has something difficult to share. It’s like a hot potato, difficult to hold. We toss it about, circling the conversation before eventually blurting some news to the other that lands like a burning coal we didn’t see coming. Ouch! Damage is done.