How to Free Up the Flow When Your Relationship Gets Stuck

May 17th, 2022|0 Comments

This week I’m going to explore the experience of relationships getting “stuck” and how to come back to flow.  By “getting stuck”, what I’m referring to is when you have things unsaid from a moment in time that came before and you can’t fully move on from that previous moment.  That’s the sticking agent - the unsaid thing.

Why Transitioning Gently Back to Connection Matters

April 11th, 2022|0 Comments

“Just moving on '' after the worst of the pandemic poses major risks to our quality of life and capacity to connect. When you have the courage to slow down and honor what you just went through, you can retrieve and re-integrate the parts of you that got “stuck” in the stressors of the last two years.

Masks Coming Off

April 2nd, 2022|1 Comment

Since the mask mandate was lifted in Washington on March 11th, the world is slowly beginning to re-open. It would be tempting to put the stressors of the last two years behind us. Yet when we "forget" we do a great injustice to the health of our hearts and minds. How do we transition gently while honoring what just happened?

Self Pleasuring Your Way to Freedom: Part 1

March 30th, 2022|3 Comments

Most people feel some shame about masturbation. Yet self-pleasuring is a powerful way to know what your body wants. In this blog, I tell the story of how I met the Grandmother of Masturbation and invite you to reflect on your earliest messages about your body’s pleasure.

How to Have the Best 2-Minute Make Out Ever

February 21st, 2022|1 Comment

This practice is totally about making out, but about so much more, too.  It’s about allowing yourself to be in full pleasure with what is, rather than finding what’s missing and focusing on what isn’t.  Be warned, this is an advanced practice.  And the more vulnerable you feel, the harder it will be. It can also multiple the happiness quotient in your relationship by one hundred-fold. I’m excited to show you how.

Healing Your Desire So That You Can Ask for What You Want

February 14th, 2022|1 Comment

I’m going to begin by stating the obvious.  In order to ask for it – whatever “it” is - you have to have some clue about what you want.  For example, when placing an order at a restaurant, you are expected to specify, “I would like beef curry, spice level 3 with a side of brown rice”. If you don’t know what you want, when the waiter shows up at your table, you’re going to have a very tough time getting fed that evening.

What Happened When Some Guy Recently Tried to Flirt With Me

February 13th, 2022|0 Comments

It’s exceedingly rare these days that I get hit on. Between infrequently leaving the house, a steady decline in my hygiene since 2020 and the fact that I broadcast “happily married” in my every step, I’ve almost forgotten what it feels like. So yesterday afternoon when the guy in the co-op parking lot started flirting with me, it was like a lost art waking from a winter slumber.

Why Telling Your Partner the Truth Can Be So Scary

January 31st, 2022|1 Comment

Across my private practice, I have recently been hearing about your hesitation and sometimes outright paralysis when it comes to telling your partner what you actually think, feel and need. In this show, I want to normalize why that can feel so scary as well as explore the impact of withholding truths on the aliveness of your love.

Hands in the Dirt: How to Grow Community

January 24th, 2022|1 Comment

In this episode, I’m going to share with you two, simple practices I have been honing for years on how to start community in the hopes that you will join me in rolling up your sleeves, getting your hands dirty and getting to work filling some of those gaps.

My Anti-Climactic Sexual Secret Revealed

December 13th, 2021|1 Comment

This episode is my fiftieth installment of “Under 10”, marking a full year since the birth of this podcast.  You could certainly call this a climactic moment.  In celebration of the momentous occasion, this week I’m going to reveal to you a personal sexual secret.