We Burned Us Down So We Could Grow Us New
@jessica_tartaro2026-04-23T12:27:54-07:00Most people are afraid to acknowledge when a relationship is falling apart. It took me a long time to acknowledge mine was. But in doing so, I am freeing it.
We Too Monthly Couples Spotlight: Real Life Stories from Real Life Couples
@jessica_tartaro2026-03-23T12:43:29-07:00"We Too" is a monthly video interview with one committed couple to reveal both your strengths as well as what it really looks like when you struggle, to reduce the isolation and create a source of resilience for long term couples. Interested in being interviewed? Fill out this application to be considered: https://tinyurl.com/2w6twcp2.
5 Things That Intimacy Coaching Adults Has Taught Me About Parenting My Toddler
@jessica_tartaro2025-08-06T07:25:11-07:00At two and a half years into my parenting journey, I decided to distill the insights I have gleaned through coaching adults that guide my humbling, hapless and sometimes helpful child rearing. Let me know what you think!
Making A Come Back to In-Person Sessions: A Personal Reflection
@jessica_tartaro2025-01-06T17:43:55-07:00On a fateful Friday in March of 2020, I met with a mid-morning client in my cozy intimacy coaching office in the beautiful Mt. Baker Block Building in downtown Port Townsend. Neither my client nor I knew how significant that session would be.
How to Free Up the Flow When Your Relationship Gets Stuck
@jessica_tartaro2022-05-17T07:19:35-07:00This week I’m going to explore the experience of relationships getting “stuck” and how to come back to flow. By “getting stuck”, what I’m referring to is when you have things unsaid from a moment in time that came before and you can’t fully move on from that previous moment. That’s the sticking agent - the unsaid thing.
Gratitude Is Not For Sissies: The Power of Saying Thank you to Love
@jessica_tartaro2022-03-08T09:56:44-07:00Opening with gratitude when love touches you can shake you to your core. Gratitude is not for sissies. In this blog, I explain why and offer you practices for growing your capacity to use the embodied "thank you" to let love deeply in.
Let’s Get Married! / This Will Never Work! What the Roller Coaster of Early Relating Is Showing You About Love
@jessica_tartaro2022-03-01T14:34:33-07:00When you start to get what you want in love, a whole new challenge arises – the opportunity to learn to live life at a higher voltage. In this episode, I offer you practices for expanding gradually so you can receive what you want without getting in your own way.
How to Have the Best 2-Minute Make Out Ever
@jessica_tartaro2022-02-21T21:15:52-07:00This practice is totally about making out, but about so much more, too. It’s about allowing yourself to be in full pleasure with what is, rather than finding what’s missing and focusing on what isn’t. Be warned, this is an advanced practice. And the more vulnerable you feel, the harder it will be. It can also multiple the happiness quotient in your relationship by one hundred-fold. I’m excited to show you how.
Why Telling Your Partner the Truth Can Be So Scary
@jessica_tartaro2022-01-31T23:09:16-07:00Across my private practice, I have recently been hearing about your hesitation and sometimes outright paralysis when it comes to telling your partner what you actually think, feel and need. In this show, I want to normalize why that can feel so scary as well as explore the impact of withholding truths on the aliveness of your love.
Why Words Are Essential to Love Making
@jessica_tartaro2022-01-24T19:30:53-07:00This episode is about the importance of talking to one another during love making and all the many ways that communication in sex is vital for increasing the pleasure and deepening the connection. Something most people never learned.
It’s Not If You Get Triggered, It’s How You Clean It Up
@jessica_tartaro2022-01-24T19:31:42-07:00Happy new year! I pray the new year has begun in peace for you. Though I happen to know, because you have told me, that for many of you it hasn’t. This episode is about all the friction that has been happening lately - in couples, in families and across community.
My Anti-Climactic Sexual Secret Revealed
@jessica_tartaro2021-12-14T12:24:01-07:00This episode is my fiftieth installment of “Under 10”, marking a full year since the birth of this podcast. You could certainly call this a climactic moment. In celebration of the momentous occasion, this week I’m going to reveal to you a personal sexual secret.
YOU MUST KNOW YOUR WILD TO LOVE ME
@jessica_tartaro2023-09-24T17:07:22-07:00I trust you to the degree that you have welcomed your own wild out and befriended them... Only then will we be safe to love one another.
PRAISING GOD WHILE HAVING SEX: FAITH FROM THE BEDROOM
@jessica_tartaro2023-10-11T21:58:56-07:00If you only know me as an outspoken sexuality coach, you may not know that my spiritual life growing up in Plano, TX, included a living relationship to a very personal God. In my parents’ home, when I woke up, I thanked Jesus for a good night’s sleep
YOU MEAN YOU WISH TO SURRENDER TO ME?
@jessica_tartaro2023-09-19T20:41:01-07:00My favorite line from The Princess Bride, my favorite childhood movie, begins like this. “Surrender!” commands Prince Humperdink, as he and his henchmen surround a battered Westley and Buttercup as they limp out of the woods of the infamous Fire Swamp.
A SIMPLE GATEWAY TO GET THEM TO REALLY HEAR YOU
@jessica_tartaro2023-09-19T20:36:10-07:00It usually starts the same way. One of us has something difficult to share. It’s like a hot potato, difficult to hold. We toss it about, circling the conversation before eventually blurting some news to the other that lands like a burning coal we didn’t see coming. Ouch! Damage is done.