Join me for a six-session, outdoor summer series where we will cultivate, practice and embody the skills necessary to connect over difference. Starting June 9th, we will meet outdoors every other Wednesday during June, July and August in a spacious, 3-acre private residence in Chimacum, WA. Final gathering will be August 18th. I have the feeling that together, we can cultivate and refine the basic tools to support mending where our community has been torn the previous year. I hope you will register and join this journey!
Projecting is all about our perception. It refers to the process of seeing through the lens of the fears and anxieties hidden in our minds. When we can listen with presence, we can pierce through our projections so that we are not relating to fragments of our past but to real, live and unique people in our present. Listening without projecting is essential for connecting and reconnecting with community, and especially when we are relating to people different from us. I hope you will join us for the final online SpeakUP of the season on Wednesday May 26th to practice listening not projecting!
Most adults misplace our curiosity along the way of growing up. We stop giving ourselves permission to probe into life as we may have once done as children. In this time in the world of uncertainty, pain, confusion and fear, bringing curiosity to our relationships is a game changer. It can shift disconnection into connection. Fear into safety. Enemy into friend. Join us May 5th from 5-6:30pm at Chetzemoka Park in Port Townsend to ignite your curiosity in community together!
The theme for our April 21st, online event will be "Reconnection". Together we will ask the questions, "What has this past year been like for me? What have I lost? What have I gained?" Reconnection is not as simple as it might seem. Reconnecting well invites us to tune into all that has transpired in order to expand again sustainably. I hope to see you April 21st to reconnect mindfully and heartfully!
Reconnection is not as simple as it might seem. When we go so long without social contact, our relational system by necessity, changes, to adapt to the solitude. Reconnecting well invites us to tune into our current relational bodies in order to move at a pace that will help us expand again sustainably. Join us from 5-6:30pm on Wednesday April 14th at Chetzemoka Park in Port Townsend to reconnect well together.
Next SpeakUP on Wednesday, March 24th at 6:30pm PST will be on saying, "I'm sorry". We will all mess up, hurt people we love and say things we didn't mean. It's how we clean it up that will determine the depth and integrity of our relationships. Delivering a heartfelt apology asks a great amount of presence and willingness to feel how intimately we are each connected and how much we impact one another. Join us next SpeakUP to practice together!
Next SpeakUP on Wednesday March 10th will be on what feeds us! Following up with our previous themes of boundaries and consent and saying and celebrating "no", we will focus our next games night on saying "yes"! So what feeds you? How do you take care of yourself? Make new friends? Relax? What makes you laugh? Please bring your journal or paper and a pen to this event.
On Wednesday February 24th from 6:30-8:30pm PST, we will explore what the elements of consent include. This night will be a fundraiser for central Texas communities of color hardest hit by the winter storms. Together, we will slow down and play games to help sensitize our relating muscles to what authentic consent in adult relating can feel like. It's a deeply healing practice. I hope to see you there to raise funds for Texas communities in need!
Join us Wednesday, February 10th from 6:30-8:30pm PST to explore what it means to collaborate as community committed to creating new norms around boundaries together. By request, we are continuing this theme from last time because you said, "Yes we need to talk about this more!" Bring your questions, challenges, and quandaries about boundaries to practice setting and receiving boundaries in care-filled, skillful, authentic and healing ways. All are welcome!
This SpeakUP on Wednesday January 27th from 6:30-8:30pm PST, we are going to focus on the role that we as authentic community members play in helping each individual assert their limits and boundaries. Instead of reacting to a boundary by pulling away, we can offer, "Thank you for taking care of yourself" and other affirmations for the boundary that can change everything. Join us to practice this vital skill! No one turned away for lack of funds.
It's one thing to point out what isn't working in the world. It's another thing to become or embody the change we wish to see, as Ghandi famously called for. At our next SpeakUP on Wednesday January 13th 6:30-8:30pm PST, we will explore the small and big ways we can close the gap between sitting in the sidelines of a world in need and making direct differences in the way we make choices in our day-to-day lives. All are welcome!
Next games night is Wednesday December 30th at 6:30pm PST! At "SpeakUP About Telling Stories", participants will be invited to share stories on journeys, on darkness and light, on fear and courage, on personal victories, on hope and on whatever wants to be told in the moment. All are welcome! No one turned away for lack of funds.
Join a vibrant, virtual community as we nourish ourselves to take on 2021. I will be teaching a workshop Sunday January 17th titled, "Everything I Need to Know I Learned from Pussy". All about surrender in our sexual and intimate connections. See you there!