When the tough stuff in relationships arise, most adults look the other way which can be deadly for the quality of our relating over time. But if you have options, you don’t have to default to avoidance. In episode 19, I offer a 5-step process for addressing conflict in healthy ways.
0:49 Here’s what I mean by conflict
2:07 Two main consequences of long-term conflict avoidance
3:12 Like trying to eat dinner over a field of land mines
3:24 Avoidance diminishes the quality of our relating
3:35 Why we avoid
4:51 Our relationship norms have dictated that anything but happy was bad
6:27 They have their heads stuck up a dark, stinky place (don’t do this).
7:33 5-step preventive process for addressing conflict in healthy ways
9:15 Put the feelings on the table without trying to fix, solve or blame
9:56 This week’s homework
Dr. Jessica Tartaro
Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator
Pronouns “She” + “Her”
“Contact me to schedule an initial, complimentary consultation – called an Exploratory – to explore the fit for coaching together.”
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