Politeness teaches us to ignore what is right in front of us. Curiosity gives us permission to get out loud again, name what’s present and revive our nerve endings. In episode 21, I invite you to reclaim curiosity with me.
1:20 She asked me about what was right under my nose.
2:17 We learned to get less bold and started pretending.
3:02 If our culture’s value is to be anesthetized, then curiosity will always be a threat.
3:43 My physical body guides my curiosity.
4:20 Valerie Kaur and her book See No Stranger and her quote about wonder
6:17 Engaging curiosity involves turning the volume back up on your attention that has been muted.
6:48 Your body will start lighting back up when you follow your curiosity.
7:20 Story about coffee with a new friend who couldn’t reciprocate my curiosity
8:26 Following our curiosity means taking risks.
8:46 This week’s homework – play “Spotlight” with your partner.
10:08 Politeness taught us to ignore – curiosity returns permission to name what’s present.
Resources: See No Stranger: A Memoir & Manifesto of Revolutionary Love (2020) by Valerie Kaur. https://valariekaur.com/see-no-stranger/
Dr. Jessica Tartaro
Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator
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