Pacing our communication and seeking consent for the small and big transitions in conversation can smooth the rough edges of our relating and build trust.  In this episode, I share this “relational superpower” with you step-by-step.

1:13 I tell you what I’m going to do before I do it (aka this is the tool)

2:02 I define consent

2:30 What gets in the way of bringing our whole selves along into our love lives

3:37 Consent is like the rails to hang on to through the perils of intimacy

4:08 The benefits of asking before you ask

4:45 The alternative is to blurt it out and surprise the people around us

5:31 A personal story about two friends and their struggle with consent

6:52 Here’s what might have helped

8:30 Holding the worldview of the other person as we attune our communication

8:48 This week’s homework


Writing I have done on this topic, including a blog about my first kiss with my husband. And an older blog about this tool here, also published in Elephant Journal.

Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia
Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley
Photo by Filipp Romanovski on Unsplash

Contact Information

Dr. Jessica Tartaro
Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator
Pronouns “She” + “Her”

Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562

“Contact me to schedule an initial, complimentary consultation – called an Exploratory – to explore the fit for coaching together.”

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