Pet names are sweet and fun. But if you use them too early in your relationship, you risk falling in love with an idea of a sweetheart rather than the actual person. Here’s how you can avoid that pitfall and help your relationship last.
1:30 Remember the beginning of your last relationship
1:46 The filter we see new lovers through
2:29 Milan Kundera quote about the risks of the first days of new love
3:22 The beginning of the relationship will determine what comes next
3:55 The risk of pet names
4:53 When my girlfriend called me “honey”, I cringed (here’s why)
5:50 Hilarious song parody about the lack of intimacy of pet names
7:06 It’s possible to recover from the distortion
7:50 It’s when you clutch onto the relationship that it slips through your fingers
8:25 Why I currently use pet names
8:42 This week’s homework
Resources: Milan Kundera: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Milan_Kundera. Song “Don’t Ever Call Your Sweetheart By His Name” By Christine Lavin: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2U8EcJLUlkw
Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia
Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley
Photo by J E S U S R O C H A on Unsplash
Contact Information
Dr. Jessica Tartaro
Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator
Pronouns “She” + “Her”
Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562
Email: DrTartaro@gmail.com
Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/
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