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I believe that the world needs brave, resilient and integrated healers to lead right now. And I believe we have some work to do to rise to the challenge.

The term “wounded healer” applies to how many of us came into our healing work. It certainly applies for me as a therapist. The cracks in my heart and psyche are the same places through which my gifts of intuition, compassion and presence for others come through. I am proud that the challenges of my history gave rise to my gifts.

But I also bring certain liabilities to my work as a therapist, given my history.

And in the face of the world’s need, I find myself deeply reflecting on the question, “What does it mean to be healthy as a healer at this time in history?” And what would it take to evolve that phrase from “the wounded healer” to “the healing healer”?

Through a playful, honest journey of exploration and connection, we will be answering these questions together on November 16th.

Join me from 1-4pm at Madrona Mind/Body Institute along with other practitioners in the healing arts to answer the question together, “How might our healing for others also offer greater healing to ourselves?”.

We will play a series of connection games designed to warm our voices up to this discussion and bring forward our brave authenticity. At this event I will also be sharing more about “Leadership from the Inside Out”, my 2019 pilot training program focused on redesigning the model for healing our worlds by more deeply committing to healing ourselves.

Early Bird Registration before November 9th —> $35
Regular Registration after November 9th —> $45

Send payment via Paypal to “DrTartaro@gmail.com” using the “Friends & Family” option to help me avoid fees for this low cost event.


I don’t know about you, but embedded perniciously inside of every training program I have ever dutifully pledged allegiance to was the message, “Do better for others than you might do for yourself”. Sound familiar?

The impact of this messaging over the nearly 20 years of my healing career as a therapist has been destructive.

I struggle with letting myself rest. I judge when I am less evolved than I think I should be. I have a very underdeveloped practice of receiving relative to my practice of giving. And my journey of getting vulnerable with others in my own personal life has been clouded by confusion and mistrust.

I believe I am not alone.

But I also believe there is good news afoot. Which is that the world is demanding that we rise up to do better. Instead of perpetuating our own wounding in the name of healing, with the awareness available through our own healing professions, I believe we have the power to redesign the model that guides modern day healing arts.

And I believe the two elements necessary for that redesign involve AUTHENTICITY and SUPPORT from fellow healers.

My journey to lead from greater AUTHENTICITY began in 2012, shortly after I completed my PhD in Clinical Health Psychology. Building from my training as an Intimacy Coach, I began to lead community connection games. For the last six years I have transmitted skills I might teach in private therapy in community, drop-in style connection nights in Austin, San Francisco, Dallas and now Port Townsend, WA.

I model the games events after the format innovated by the founder of Authentic Relating (AR) games, led typically by non professionals (https://www.authrev.com/). As a therapist, I build from the AR template to empower circles of humans to lean into issues that might otherwise divide them, speak from the heart, own their experience and discover deep, nourishing connection. I hold space for therapeutic growth at an event attended by people who might never otherwise seek therapy.

The primary difference between what I once delivered as a VA Psychologist and how I currently lead is that I now share me. Which hasn’t been easy. Somewhere along the lines of my formal training I learned to hide my humanness behind my professionalism rather than join my clients in their humanity. As a coach and community activist, I now lead directly from my own vulnerability. I lead authentically. Which is a constant journey requiring ongoing discernment, courage and a willingness to let go.

But I think the work of redesigning healing doesn’t end there.

I believe the complete evolution of this model includes healers who teach and guide from authenticity who ALSO land inside of circles of other healers to get our own SUPPORT.

After a connection sampler I lead recently for a staff of local healers, the administrative director of the program turned to me and said, “”You know, it’s like we are all these isolated silos of open-heartedness. Its so rare that we might come together out of isolation”.

I believe that we must come together out of isolation to take our own turn at healing. Only then, I believe, will we shift from the unsustained, unsustainable wounded healer to the healer who genuinely applies her own craft to her own heart. To the healing healer.

During the first two hours of this event, I will guide you through connection games to get a living invitation into authenticity beginning with grounding, then warming into playful and brave sharing from the heart. We will focus on the theme of leadership, what it means to each of us to be a leader in the healing arts and the challenges each of us face in our professional niches.

During the last hour I will introduce my training model, “Leadership from the Inside Out” and the pilot program that I am offering here in Port Townsend in 2019. I have 3 spots remaining in this program. I will be welcoming sign ups for program interviews by local healers who are interested in collaborating on this journey with me.

As I see it, when the leaders become human, the humans become leaders. Despite the ongoing discomfort of revealing my own insecurities and vulnerabilities, I have found that the more I lean into this edge in both my therapeutic offerings as well as by receiving my own support, the more the healing impact in me and around me reverberates.

I hope you will join me.


Early Bird Registration before November 9th —> $35
Regular Registration after November 9th —> $45

Send payment via Paypal to “DrTartaro@gmail.com” using the “Friends & Family” option to help me avoid fees for this low cost event.

I led this event earlier this fall in Seattle. You can read about participants’ experience here: https://www.facebook.com/events/2050508875201271/


Dr. Jessica Tartaro is an Intimacy Therapist with nearly 20 years experience working with individuals, couples and groups. Former Fulbright scholar, she has traveled the world conducting research on growth through trauma as well as studying with leaders in the authentic relating and circling movements. Her gift lies in embodying vulnerability as an invitation for you to find the most authentic, alive, vital and creative parts of yourself through which to connect with others. Compelled by the beauty of the land and people, Jessica recently migrated from Dallas, TX, to Port Townsend, WA, where she has re-opened her private Intimacy Coaching practice and launched her signature, weekly connection games called “SpeakUP”. Look for her dance events, coaching groups, workshops on orgasmic connection and wherever community connection is flourishing. Book her for a complimentary consultation for private coaching or schedule her to speak at your event at www.DrJessicaTartaro.com.

Read more about the connection communities I have founded:

In Dallas – https://www.facebook.com/groups/DallasSpeakUP/

And in Port Townsend – https://www.facebook.com/groups/SpeakUPPNW/.