Under 10: Mini Podcasts on Intimacy with Dr. Jessica Tartaro

My new weekly podcast on Intimacy with installments of ten minutes or less about each week’s theme. Sign up for my newsletter on the bottom of this page to receive my podcasts directly to your inbox.
Want to request a theme or ask a question? Email me and stay tuned!

The Birth of this Podcast

This podcast grew out of my efforts to stay connected to friends and family during the pandemic.  I had been exchanging voice memos with one particular friend who enthusiastically told me that I needed to turn my personal memos into a professional podcast.  What a genius idea!  A lightbulb went off.  I realize not everyone is going to hire an intimacy coach. Why not produce bite-sized, weekly installments on intimacy themes that anyone can digest. I set to work figuring out how to share my voice memos with the world.  And voila, “Under 10” was born.

How to use “Under 10”

Think of these mini podcasts like voice memos reaching out to you from a friend through the isolation saying, “I see you! You’re not alone”. Except better, because they include tools that build on each other for growing intimacy between you and others. Podcasts will come out on Mondays and each week there is an assignment for you to practice! Be sure to tune in, engage the practice and leave me a note about what you learned in the comments section at the bottom of the page. Each assignment will build on the previous week’s podcast. 

Listen below on Apple or on Spotify and enjoy the episode notes to help you follow along!

Episode 21 – Aren’t You Curious to Hear This Week’s Theme?

Politeness teaches us to ignore what is right in front of us. Curiosity gives us permission to get out loud again, name what’s present and revive our nerve endings. In this episode, I invite you to reclaim curiosity with me.

1:20 She asked me about what was right under my nose.
2:17 We learned to get less bold and started pretending.
3:02 If our culture’s value is to be anesthetized, then curiosity will always be a threat.
3:43 My physical body guides my curiosity.
4:20 Valerie Kaur and her book See No Stranger and her quote about wonder
6:17 Engaging curiosity involves turning the volume back up on your attention that has been muted.
6:48 Your body will start lighting back up when you follow your curiosity.
7:20 Story about coffee with a new friend who couldn’t reciprocate my curiosity
8:26 Following our curiosity means taking risks.
8:46 This week’s homework – play “Spotlight” with your partner.
10:08 Politeness taught us to ignore – curiosity returns permission to name what’s present.

Resources: See No Stranger: A Memoir & Manifesto of Revolutionary Love (2020) by Valerie Kaur. https://valariekaur.com/see-no-stranger/

Podcast produced by Sal De Rosalia
Music composed and performed by Mia Kelley

Episode 20 – Becoming A Jedi of Boundaries

Boundaries not only protect us, they make it possible for us to let others in. However, if your emotional sensitivity is a survival mechanism, it can feel impossible to stop taking responsibility for others. In this episode, I describe the challenge of boundaries for highly empathic people and include essential action steps for restoring a feeling of control in your relationships.

4.26.2021 – Episode Notes

1:09 I got confused about boundaries at a young age
2:30 I call this “empathy activated in the jungle”
3:10 Empathy without boundaries exacts a high price from the empathizer
3:57 How Obi-Wan Kenobi guided the jedis to befriend the force
4:22 Our adult work is to install the control deck
4:45 We lose respect for ourselves when we let others overstep us
5:15 I fall in love with myself when this happens
6:10 Boundaries help us feel the magnet
6:38 You can be with them but not become them
6:45 Aaron Johnson of Holistic Resistance and his example of boundaries
6:22 “To not be invincible is how I ground myself”
8:19 This is a good way to start your boundaries practice
8:58 This week’s practice
9:28 Boundary mantras to repeat

Resources: Holistic Resistance and their anti-racist, community fostering programs have changed my life.  I can’t recommend them enough and encourage you to sign up for one of their offerings.

Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia
Music composed and performed by Mia Kelley

Episode 19 – Can You Risk the Mess to Come Alive? Befriending Conflict in Relationships

When the tough stuff in relationships arise, most adults look the other way which can be deadly for the quality of our relating over time.  But if you have options, you don’t have to default to avoidance.  In this episode, I offer a 5-step process for addressing conflict in healthy ways.

4.19.2021 – Episode Notes

00:29 Here’s what I mean by conflict
1:47 Two main consequences of long-term conflict avoidance
2:52 Like trying to eat dinner over a field of land mines
3:04 Avoidance diminishes the quality of our relating
3:15 Why we avoid
4:31 Our relationship norms have dictated that anything but happy was bad
6:07 They have their heads stuck up a dark, stinky place (don’t do this).
7:13 5-step preventive process for addressing conflict in healthy ways
8:55 Put the feelings on the table without trying to fix, solve or blame
9:36 This week’s homework

Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 18 – The Intimate Connection Between Pleasure & Grief

The bottom line about grief is that it’s better to feel it than resist it. Yet, most adults resist grief. With this episode, I demystify the communal grieving process as well as make a connection between pleasure and grief that I bet you didn’t realize.

4.12.2021 – Episode Notes

00:45 The beginning of my grief journey
1:23 My initial grieving experiences were private
2:11 I was scared of being seen in my grief.
3:48 What happened next changed my life.
4:20 One by one, people would burst open.
4:40 No one went to the altar alone.
5:16 I willed my feet to move and found myself in a row of grievers.
6:14 The force of the room’s commitment to grieving took me into its current.
7:18 In the company of others, I can let go of what I couldn’t release alone.
7:28 What does grief have to do with pleasure?
8:22 Moving grief means you have more room for pleasure.
9:02 Grief is its own form of orgasm.
9:18 This week’s homework – two parts.
9:56 The more of us who grieve, the more pleasure and wisdom can flow in the world.

Resources: Some of my favorite songs to grieve to:  The Promise (1995) by Tracy Chapman. Bone Dance (2015) by Deya Dova. Trusty and True (2014) by Damien Rice. Go In Peace (2017) by Sam Baker.

For community grieving online: “Holding Our Hearts: A Spring Grief Tending Circle (6 weeks)” – https://tinyurl.com/23ew25r9 – and “Community Grief Tending Circles (twice a month on Zoom  Next one April 17th)” – https://tinyurl.com/rw5374rd

Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 17 – How Using A Timer Can Be Sexy

Using a timer can not only help you be more productive in life, it can also intensify and direct the heat, desire and yearning in your physical intimacy.  I dare you to try it this week.

4.05.2021 – Episode Notes

00:49 “I’ll time you!” worked every time with our youngest brother.
1:35 When we create the artifact of limited time, something inside may enliven that would otherwise be dull.
2:25 It can be easy to fog out in our days without social interaction.
3:50 Dr. Brene Brown’s definition of vulnerability
4:49 While the timer is ticking, open your heart and let your words follow.
5:45 Why setting a timer for makeouts or sex works
6:15 Left wanting more in physical intimacy is a good thing!
7:02 I describe most delicious, 3-minute kiss with my husband
7:41 “You must respect the ding!”
8:32 This week’s homework.

Resources: Daring Greatly (2012) by Dr. Brene Brown

Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 16 – Saying Nothing, You Give Me Everything

There’s so much in life right now that can’t be fixed or changed.  The harder option is to listen, ground and feel.  In this episode, I walk you through how to say nothing as a listener and in so doing, effectively lighten the emotional loads of those around you.

3.29.2021 – Episode Notes

1:00 “I hear you, I’m with you and I’m not trying to fix or change you”.
1:26 Being present with the unfixable is an advanced skill most people can’t do.
1:52 I talk you through – in slow motion – what happens when you are listening to someone’s discomfort.
2:48 The urge to fix or change is like an emotional itch.
3:28 We are wired to need one another’s validation to help us know we matter.
4:06 Here are 4 options for how to “say nothing”.
5:55 You can also just ask directly what they need.
6:30 “It’s Not About The Nail”
8:08 When it comes to being present to injustice, we must do our grief work.
8:44 By listening and saying nothing, you lighten the weight of the other person’s burdens.
9:13 This week’s homework.

Resources: “It’s Not About the Nail” YouTube video (2013)

Podcast Produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 15 – Baby Tell Me What You Need!

While infants can’t do it, as adults we can ask for what we need when we most need it.  In this week’s episode, I share candidly about my rough week and how I found my words to climb out of my despair.

3.22.2021 – Episode Notes

00:40 I introduce you to my sister’s first daughter, Taylor.
2:00 The adults who couldn’t soothe her and this poor baby who couldn’t be soothed
2:45 It may seem impossible but it’s only just really, really hard (to ask for what we need).
3:08 I admit the truth about my tough week.
4:00 My conclusions were creating my reality – but I couldn’t see that at the time.
4:18 Here’s what I did to get out of this dark headspace.
6:17 “Are you open to my being honest about how I’m feeling?”
6:53 Now I have concluded that the world is filled with people who can support me.
7:15 My privileges are inextricable from my relational resilience.
8:13 I level with you about what it takes to find your words in times of high stress.
8:43 Muscle memory when it comes to positive coping is your saving grace.
8:46 This week’s homework.

Podcast Produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 14 – Blaming: The Classic Relationship Blunder

It’s an advanced skill to avoid blaming those we trust the most when we are hurting. And it’s vital for ensuring we preserve our sources of support when we most need them.

3.15.2021 – Episode Notes

0:40 A definition of blaming in relationship
1:40 The conundrum of hurting the people we trust the most
2:11 The closer we get to them, the more slippery the blaming slope becomes
3:52 Vizzini the Sicilian from the Princess Pride and his famous lines
4:50 The blaming worsens the burden and alienates our support
5:28 An example of a couple I coach and “catching” the blaming
6:45 Identifying the feeling underneath the blaming and asking for support
7:40 This week’s homework – two parts.
9:03 The most amazing relationship advice you will ever receive.

Podcast Produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 13 – Let the Sun Set On Your Anger & Rise On Your Forgiveness

It may be timeless, but the traditional advice, “Don’t let the sun go down on your anger” may not fit the modern relationship.

3.08.2021 – Episode Notes

00:37 I am willing to contradict the Bible to find what works for the modern relationship
2:00  Late at night, the gargoyles come out.
2:28  When the sun rises, I have more access to my forgiveness.
2:45  Sleep is a winning factor when it comes to love.
4:22 When did you stop dancing? Singing?  Being enchanted by stories?  Finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?
5:00 During sleep, we are doing important emotional metabolizing.
5:45 My husband’s insight (he can’t sleep when he’s angry)
6:31 The compromise (use this script)
7:23 The quality of our relationships with others will flow from the quality of our relationship with ourselves.
7:35 This week’s practice

Resources: Read about cultural anthropologist Angeles Arrien and her inspiring publications here.

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 12 – Savoring (In Bed)

We think we need to wait for something good to happen before we savor life. But it’s possible to savor the little things and in so doing, grow more of the good things we want.

3.01.2021 – Episode Notes

0:24 I share a fun secret with you about my podcast and sex
1:15 Dad loved food – “savoring and sweating”
1:55 When you choose to lean into enjoying a moment, it can reward you with more things to enjoy.
2:37 Why this is hard
3:38 Find the one thing you can be grateful for and savor the sh***t out of it.
3:40 We need to sit at the table of pain and sweat and savor to grow the resilience to face what needs to be faced.
4:05 Training our brains to associate a sensory experience with pleasure
5:05 I improved the quality of the massage by telling the therapist what I liked.
6:20 If all that is happening in relationship is a pointing out of what isn’t working, then there isn’t fuel to create the better version of the partnership.
7:10 Enjoyment is vulnerable.
8:10 Mmmm’ing and hearing yourself affirm your right to pleasure
8:45 This week’s homework – two practices

Resources: Dr.Rick Hanson and “growing the good”

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 11 – Talking About Talking About Sex

The ability to connect your words to your sexual body matters. In this episode, I share a first step to talking about sex in healthy, connected ways. Warning: this episode contains content that may be challenging for very sensitive listeners.

2.22.2021 – Episode Notes

1:30  Sex brings us into feelings
1:45  The ability to stay present in high sensation
2:00  Notice what happens for you as you listen
2:45  Talking about sex in the VA
3:45  Direct correlation between talking about sex and having fulfilling sex
4:30  Clarifying terms
5:35  Making sexual connection a practice
7:48  Our genitals deserve to be named
8:43  This week’s practice 

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 10 – Grounded Yearning: The Art of Breaking Open

We’ve mostly been taught in love to make it feel good.  But learning to expand into the ache of wanting but not having or changing is a vital element for mature and empowering intimacy. In this episode, I invite you to practice “grounded yearning” with me.

2.15.2021 – Episode Notes

 0:55 Distress or discomfort has value to us
1:30 Big feelings need big space
1:41 Think, an ocean trying to get through a garden hose
2:07 A definition of yearning
2:56 I want my emotions to energize, inspire and expand me – not drown me
3:10 You have to practice distress tolerance/self-soothing to receive the benefit of yearning (see resources below)
4:00 Let’s try a yearning experiment…
6:04 To savor what you once wanted to avoid
7:50 It’s not a “break apart” – it’s a “break open” – into a bigger version of yourself
8:31 Choosing feeling stretches my emotional holding tank
8:40 Welcoming the ache of sad classical music
9:33 This week’s practice – saying yes to the yearning

Resources on distress tolerance and self soothing: Podcast “DBT + Me” On Spotify and Apple.  A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times by Matt Licata

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 9 – Why I Go To Therapy & Why You Might, Too

In this episode, I introduce you to my 19-year-old college self and describe my choice to start therapy. The year was 1995. I haven’t stopped since. Here’s why.

2.8.2021 – Episode Notes

0:40: My intent is not to persuade you but to educate you.
1:40: The beginning of my therapy journey
2:35: He told me that I coped by intellectualizing.
3:30: I began to drop into my body and unlock grief, rage, horror and sadness.
3:55: Like waking up from a fog.
4:14: With my therapist, I practice “doing life better”.
4:47: The therapy relationship is a template – a taste of healthy relating – that we can repeat.
5:08: Without support to come out of your intellect and into the body, you may not change your patterns.
5:30: A possible starting point – doing research and listening to your gut.
6:42: “I told him I quit. I don’t trust you”.  He had the right answer for me.
7:15: Why hire a coach or a therapist? Here’s why.
8:30: Consider setting an intention to acknowledge your healing and well-being.
8:50: Questions you can ask a potential therapist or coach.

Bonus: If you DO decide to seek out a therapist or coach, here are some questions I recommend you ask  to empower you to find the right person. See if any of these might feel relevant or useful to you! (1) Are you trained to deal with trauma? If so, how?  (2) Do you work with the body in therapy or coaching? If so, how?  (3) What’s your own history of being in therapy? (4) I have trouble opening up to people I don’t know. How will you help me with that?  (5) Do you offer a sliding scale, Covid discounts or social justice rates to help me afford your services?

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 8 – Re-Norming Boundaries

In this episode, I talk about why boundaries are important, what makes them so darn hard and an example of “re-norming” boundaries in my connection to my friend, Renee.   

2.1.2021 – Episode Notes

 00:20 seconds: Shifting boundaries from being bad into something we celebrate
1:40: We have to be a person to connect with other people.
1:55: Some examples of boundaries I set this week
3:00: Looking to childhood lessons around boundaries to understand why they are hard to set in adulthood
4:15: Most adult relationships are not boundary friendly
4:45: There’s nothing wrong with you if you struggle with setting boundaries.
5:45: Together we have to change the norms around boundaries.
6:15: Meet my friend Renee: A personal example of re-norming boundaries
7:30: “Thank you for taking care of yourself”.
8:30: Because she celebrates my “no”, my heart can let her in.
8:50: Two take-home tools to practice re-norming boundaries in your relationships

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 7 – Making Love Stay

In this episode, I tell you about an exchange I had with my husband when I didn’t feel listened to and how I handled it.  Making love stay is a practice.  Here’s one way you can practice, too.

1.25.2021 – Episode Notes

0:18 seconds: My husband didn’t get it right with me.
1
:05: What would you have done?
1:49: Tom Robbins quote about love and making magic
3:15: Magic isn’t possible when you don’t feel safe.
3:55: As long as you feel safe, try speaking to the best parts of the other person.
4:50: I could have punished him, but…
6:00: Here’s what I did. And I got what I wanted.
7:30: You may have buttons that send you back in time, too.
7:55: Body-based, present moment practices are a “must” for healthy relating.
8:35: The bad things that happened in the past don’t have to run on repeat.
10:05: When we start with love, it will not only stay – it will grow.

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 6 – Saying “Hi” to Your Inner Critic aka Letting Others In

In this episode, I introduce “inner parts work” and talk about saying “hi” to your critic. Try it out. You may just find that when you acknowledge your critic in a welcoming, friendly way, you create more room inside to let others in too.

1.18.2021 – Episode Notes

1:20 The “outer” work of intimacy depends on the “inside work” of connection with ourselves
2:05 Introduction to working with parts
3:15 Health is the integration of all the parts
4:12 Can you hear your critic?
5:37 My critic is a tight-bun-wearing-academic who roars!
6:50 Live demo: I say hi to my inner critic (a first step)
8:57 If it’s not a fun party for me inside, I’m not going to invite you!
9:10 The voice of the inner critic will block you from loving me
9:32 Even a little softening makes room for others to get in
9:39 You can try this with kids too!

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 5 – The Embodied I’m Sorry: More Than Words

In this episode, I talk about how in a life of authenticity, we will make messes. It’s inevitable! Being able to say “I’m sorry” with the integrity of your body and actions behind it will make all the difference for continued and deepening connection.

1.11.2021 – Episode Notes
1:05 In a life of authenticity, it’s not a question of “will we” make waves. We will. It’s how we clean it up that matters.
3:00 Taking up space is part of being a healthy human. In a dynamic, full range life, we want to make an impact. It’s a sign that we are connected.
4:35 Growing up, I heard “I’m sorry” without change.  I learned not to trust those words.
6:25 “I’m sorry. And, I would like to know the impact my actions had on you. Would you tell me?”
7:35 When I can tolerate the discomfort, I can learn from my behavior.

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia

Episode 4 – Saying What’s True Part 2: Making Agreements for Truth

In Episode 4, I challenge you to make agreements with the people in your life to reveal more truth.

1.4.2021 – Episode Notes
0:18 I serenade you!
1:05 “Can you and I make an agreement?”
2:40 Making agreements creates a “net” to catch us in the discomfort so we don’t have to run away
3:55 Last week I confronted my sister about a broken agreement
5:15 “Authenticity is efficient”
6:00 It’s never too late to come back into truth.
6:17 Starting with “I need to admit that…”
7:20 When you prioritize truth in relating, you don’t have to hide when the going gets tough
7:45 My challenge to you for the week – make your own agreements for truth

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 3 – Saying What’s True Part 1: Starting With the Body

In Episode 3, I connect truth telling in relationship with getting connected to the body, even the stinkiest parts of being in the body!

12.28.2020 – Episode Notes
1:30 What makes saying what’s true so hard
2:00 We were noticing what was true – but no one was naming it
3:00 “Don’t name the thing”
3:53 I don’t like mustard!
5:10 How do we reconcile what we are saying with what we are feeling? Begin with the body
6:15 First practice this week: Notice the body without story
7:12 I say the “f” word (it’s not what you think)
8:00 When we start with the body, we close the gap between what we feel and what’s okay to name
9:33 Second practice this week: Notice that we all fart, including you!
11:10 I was using new recording software and couldn’t see the time tracker and “Under 10” got a bonus minute ;).

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 2 – Risking Uncool To Get On Purpose In Connection

In Episode 2, I share a story from my childhood to demonstrate what it means to shed cool in lieu of taking care of ourselves and our hearts. Be sure to try this week’s assignment!

12.21.2020 – Episode Notes
1:05 Think about intimacy practices like exercise reps
1:25 The harder life gets, the more we need “connection muscle tone”
1:50. Discipline can be sexy!
2:50 A very embarrassing story from 1986
5:00 Dad wanted us to pause and interrupt “business as usual”
5:30 A new definition of cool
6:25 My husband squeezed my knee at this point
6:40 “Are you available to talk? I really need someone to listen”
7:30 Your challenge for the week (with options)

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

Episode 1 – Emotional Literacy: The Class None of Us Took (but it’s not too late…)

In this opening episode, I introduce the idea that everyone can cultivate the ability to connect in deep, satisfying ways.  Think of intimacy like a curriculum. In “Under 10”, I will share with you the tools for learning the curriculum of intimacy, step-by-step.

12.14.2020 – Episode Notes
30 seconds: The birth of this podcast
2:25 I reveal my age
2:54 What was missing in my education (and yours too)
4:45 What if we practiced relating like learning scales on a piano
5:50 Think about this podcast like an intimacy class
6:25 Getting on purpose with our relating
7:40 Your assignment for this week
9:30 No need for shame if we treat intimacy like something we can all learn

Podcast Edited and Produced by Sal DeRosalia 

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Clyde Lovett
Clyde Lovett
4 months ago

Entertain, Educate, Enlighten – you envelop the listener with soothing voice, personal tales, and useful tools. Thank you Jessica for these wonderful podcasts!

Dr. Jessica Tartaro
Reply to  Clyde Lovett
4 months ago

My pleasure, Clyde! Thank you for tuning in!

Mia
Mia
4 months ago

I’m tuning in each week and feel nourished by the continued prompts and encouragement to deepen in my intimacy practices… thank you 💛
It has been a theme for me since Solstice – the connection of actively speaking more truth to better live from my heart. But I still need reminders, like daily! I sent off a voice message to a friend I needed to share some deeper truths with (right before listening to this most recent podcast, actually). I have not heard back yet, and am breathing into the space now that feels full with vulnerablity. No matter how she responds, I can feel how necessary and relieving it is to admit the less obvious dynamic we were playing in that is not working for me. I know I am taking the best care of myself, and our connection by doing so. Love and High Fives to all who are being brave in the name of better connecting. 💕

Dr. Jessica Tartaro
Reply to  Mia
3 months ago

Love and High Fives received and returned, Mia! Thank you for tuning in and I’m so glad you feel nourished. The real time practice of sharing truths can feel extraoooordinarily challenging – I’m rooting on your courage! And I must ask…how did it go with your friend?

Connie
Connie
4 months ago

Thank you for all of the good reminders on how to communicate effectively! I am enjoying your podcasts and hearing your calm voice.

@jessica_tartaro
Reply to  Connie
3 months ago

Ahh, I’m thrilled, Connie. You’re so welcome. We can all use a little extra calm these days, right? Glad my voice is settling to you :).

Katherine
Katherine
3 months ago

It’s so great to have all your specific examples, for how to go about these various things. Like, “I need to admit that…” You make it so much EASIER to contemplate actually DOING them! Thank you so much, Dr. Jessica.

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@jessica_tartaro
Reply to  Katherine
3 months ago

I’m so glad the “pointers” give you a starting point to put these ideas to practice. I’m honored to have you tuning in, Katherine!

louisa mclaren-donovan
louisa mclaren-donovan
3 months ago

episode 5 is my favorite so far. Apologizing is hard and so is waiting for one. And as for making it sincere or receiving an authentic one, even harder. The idea of asking someone how your actions impacted on them can only make your apology more heart felt and asking for permission to let someone know how you felt hurt may induce a more sincere apology from them. I have 3 kids, and relationships have been fraught during this time of lock down. i am in the UK and home schooling which just adds to the stress. Can I make a request for a podcast about how to navigate relationships with your kids in these difficult times?

@jessica_tartaro
Reply to  louisa mclaren-donovan
3 months ago

“Fraught” says a lot, Louisa. I can only imagine with three kids the challenges you are facing! Though I don’t specialize in communication with kids, I can offer a few pointers which I will plan to weave into Episode 6 and beyond. Thank you for tuning in!

Kiki
Kiki
3 months ago

Loving how these podcasts are an extension of and reinforcements of the already juicy gems I’ve received from Jessica in Speak Up groups and coaching from her. These tools are ones I will never put down, and have helped me and my relationships in countless ways. Thank you Jessica for bringing it out in these podcasts in an easy way that helps me come back to the original teachings I received and continue to receive from daily. 🙏🏼🥰

@jessica_tartaro
Reply to  Kiki
3 months ago

Kiki, I’m thrilled you are enjoying my podcast installments! Your comment is such a good reminder of the power of ongoing practice (and practice and more practice). Valerie Kaur, the filmmaker and human rights activist, talks about love as a sweet, fierce labor. I see your deep commitment to the sweet, fierce labor of love in your life and in your relationships. Keep going, my friend. I’m honored to be supporting you.

Pam
Pam
3 months ago

   In listening to my inner critic and acknowledging the fact that it plays such a big part in my life, it’s also great to come into the awareness that it is just “one part” of me inside.
It’s great to say “hi” , “I hear you” and then recognize the fact that it is just a fraction of who I am and doesn’t have to dominate how I feel or and get in the way of my relationships.
    I think this podcast was my favorite so far. Could be my mood today or the way I’ve been feeling lately but either way it was a great way to get in touch with my inner self.💕

@jessica_tartaro
Reply to  Pam
3 months ago

Pam! I’m so glad you enjoyed podcast #6! Like you are discovering, it really does seem that these loud voices inside “settle” once they are acknowledged. I sometimes imagine they go from being a barking dog to a happy panting pet once we give them a little loving attention :). I know the rest of you is extraordinarily beautiful in there. So happy that you are making space for her.