“Just moving on ” after the worst of the pandemic poses major risks to our quality of life and capacity to connect. When you have the courage to slow down and honor what you just went through, you can retrieve and re-integrate the parts of you that got “stuck” in the stressors of the last two years. Transcript for this episode is available here.
1:15 Tempting to just putting the stressors of the last two years behind us
2:00 We have all been affected
2:10 The first time I took my mask off
3:00 The definition and importance of continuity
4:20 Our culture rushes past impact
4:42 This is what could have been said
4:56 A “catching up”
5:42 The high costs of just moving on
6:05 Story by Rabbi Bernath about beauty in a metro station
7:00 Shouldn’t beauty arrest us no matter what we are doing?
7:27 The relationship between stopping for beauty and stopping for pain
8:25 This is how we “unstick” from where we got stuck in the past
8:40 This week’s homework – 3 parts
Resources: Read the full essay by Rabbi-Yisroel Bernath, “Missing the Beauty, here: https://st-ignatius.net/missing-the-beauty/. Check out a blog I wrote about my community’s transition out of masks here: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/masks-coming-off-why-transitioning-gently-matters/. And contact me for more information about speaking to your group by emailing me at DrTartaro@gmail.com.
Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia
Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley
Photo credit Antonio Guillem from iStock
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It’s heartening to hear that lots of others did not have the the support growing up to know how to process feelings in real time either. I often feel frozen and flustered in moments of high emotion, especially anger or sadness, and I need space to sort through how I actually feel. It sounds like I’m not alone in that struggle. You talking about real-time emotion processing as a learned skill also makes me hopeful. It means maybe I can eventually learn how to feel, process, and even express strong feelings in the moment!
Yes, Rosalie, absolutely! You are definitely not alone. Being disconnected from feelings is so, very, normal that most people don’t know there is a whole universe of sensations and impressions just below that frozen, protective layer. You are clearly aware that there is more, which is a powerful sign of your emotional health. I’m so glad you are willing to practice another way of relating to yourself. Slow retraining in safe containers can be miraculously healing. I pray you will keep at it.